I don’t mean the title to be offensive or sacreligious. I truly mean that sentiment. Why, you ask, do I make this statement?
I’m pretty sure my whole body tensed up as I read this article. Here are a few gems of quotes found within (remember – none of these are ironic or in jest):
“Men make decisions. Women make dinner.”
“If we love the Scripture, we must do it,” said Smith, who gave up her dreams of a career when her husband said it was time to have children. “We must fit into this role. It’s so much more important than our own personal happiness.”
“The whole point of taking college-level homemaking, she said, is to ensure that her husband won’t ever feel that he has to darn a sock or do the laundry. Those are her jobs.”
“She’s sewing a pink-and-brown polka-dot dress for herself. She dusts, mops and vacuums. She often makes dinner for her family: Noodles from scratch, or quiche with a homemade crust. Does she enjoy these tasks? Except for vacuuming, absolutely, Felts said. And if she didn’t? ‘It really doesn’t matter what I think,’ Felts said. ‘It matters what the Bible says.'”
Really? I mean, really? I need to make a quick list so I don’t completely lose my head.
1. I don’t recall the Bible ever saying that women were required to darn socks, make homemade pastries, and vacuum the house.
2. I also don’t recall the Bible saying that women (or men, for that matter) are supposed to give up their callings and happiness for the other spouse.
3. Since when does the husband get to decide when it’s time to have children?! Men can decide as soon as they have ovaries and a uterus.
4. More than anything, I feel sorry for these women who believe that this is any kind of way to live a life. We are valuable human beings, worth far more than the life that these women are advocating. I’m not saying every woman has to be a scholar or business person, but don’t deny yourself the opportunity because a man told you to! And guess what? God didn’t tell you to either.
I’ll leave you with the wise words of my dear friend Chris Ellis: “God gets blamed for a lot of shit that God has nothing to do with.”